[quote][b]Aeropat লিখেছেন:[/b][nl]I've always described everyone as "food". For example, you may be attracted to someone sexually and play around with them, but much like with any food, too much of the same becomes boring and loses its appeal. I've also always believed that every guy has his own unique senses (particular touch, look, sound, smell and taste), some may be similar, but none are identical.[nl][nl]I'm currently at the "now what?" section of one arrangement. I can't host - meeting new people has been hard considering the people I live with - so I've been the one travelling. The person in question doesn't appear to want to try anything new physically, and wants to emphasize his "master" side - but it's mostly to experiment with findom for new things, and the same old sexual activities. I've always thought creating a good rapport with someone for a long period of time showed loyalty, and led to better things not more of a disadvantage (paying for travel, paying more for used gear over time).[nl][nl]Once I move to Gatineau in an actual house, I will be looking into making local connections. Perhaps my interest for the guy I've been travelling to see will go stronger if I try "other food" for a while instead of him. We've pretty much just been "sex buddies", outside of getting off we don't have much in common, so who knows what will happen. [nl][nl]I always believe in trying to come to a happy conclusion and not be a jerk to someone about sex/fun - otherwise it creates a bitter person who ends up being a jerk to someone in retaliation - and that person is a jerk to someone else - and the cycle continues. [nl][nl]So that is my ultimate conclusion: Don't be a jerk, acknowledge that it's more of a burden to meet up when things haven't [nl]felt fresh, suggest time apart. Either the person will decide to 1. Accept, 2. Kindly want to come up with an alternative, or 3. Be a jerk. What to do from there becomes pretty evident. [nl][nl]Hope this answer gives ideas or suggestions on how to help with a rut they are in, or at least know they aren't the only ones![/quote]